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Liz Pidgley
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PostSubject: Re: I want another baby.... help me   Tue 20 Jul 2010, 8:25 pm

Hi,

Welcome to the site, Im glad you are finding the posts helpful.
It is a totally normal feeling to want more - PE stole the dream of all that pregnancy could be for you but that doesnt quell your need or want for another child. If PE hadnt raised its ugly head then I doubt this would have even been an issue for you.

It also depends on who is telling you to not have more children. Many relatives will say this through pure fear of losing you - they just cannot cope with going through it again. On the other hand if a consultant obstetrician has said it then it clearly carries more impact.
I had a conversation with a leading professor once on this very subject. He told me that in all his 45 years as a Obstetric specialist, he had only ever told one woman not to do it again. This was because the womans organs were so strained that they wouldnt cope wih a pregnancy, PE or not.

My suggestion is when you feel ready, let me know where about in the UK you are & I will send you the name of a specialist. It would really be worth a preconception appointment to work out your risks and to put you in the best possible position.

From the sound of your post, you have just had a baby who is still in NICU. If I had read correctly, many congratulations on your new arrival.

Warm wishes
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PostSubject: Re: I want another baby.... help me   Wed 21 Jul 2010, 11:54 am

Hi Liz

Thank you so much for your reply, I'm probably still getting over the shock of delivering at 27 weeks but regardless I'm still keen on having another!

As for me, I come from Cirencester, I believe due to the fact that I'm inbetween Cheltenham and Swindon I can choose where I have my ante natal appointments so for my previous pregnancies I choose Cheltenham. Although I'd be happy to go wherever - if there is a specialist that can help me achieve a more successful pregnancy than I'll consider wherever they are based!

Both my pregnancies have ended with me developing severe PE - my first was at 35 weeks and it was reflected in my blood pressure being raised significantly, yet I didn't have any symptoms - although they were telling my blood tests were indicating high urate levels I actually felt fine. In my second pregnancy, I delievered at 27 weeks and 1 day (22nd June 2010) and this time I felt unwell, I recall on the morning I felt sick, my swelling was horrendus (none at all in my first) however my blood pressure was still as had been for the presius two weeks hovering around the 140/90. In both pregnancies I had been put on blood pressure medication but aspirin had never been mentioned and I have been told that sometimes this is prescribed but for me it was never discussed. Would this have been applicable for me? Also I am overweight - if I lost weight would this make any difference?

let me know if you would like any more info, just being able to talk to somebody about the possibility of having another one is incredibly positive for me - I just cannot contain my excitment!!!

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PostSubject: Re: I want another baby.... help me   Wed 21 Jul 2010, 9:45 pm

Hi smithjackie419

Welcome to the site honey, this is a great site to stumble across Wink If ive read correctly a huge congratulations on the birth of your 2nd child, i hope both your children are doing well.

Oh PRE-ECLAMPSIA- we suffer it all through our pregnancies and even when the pregnancy is over it still haunts us when deciding to have another (if that made sense). Im going through a hard time deciding wether to have my 3rd. Just like you straight after having my 2nd i somehow craved for another and have been battling with the craving for 3 years now (my daughters 3rd birthday was on the the 19th july).

In my 1st pregnancy i had severe PE and had the same in the 2nd too HOWEVER i just cant understand the the fact that the word "Aspirin" never came into the equation AT ALL... Aspirin does help but im no doctor so Liz is the best person to ask for advice and let me tell you that Liz has been my Rock throughout THE WAR of my mind and heart (im sure you have read my written versions of my battle Arrow my posts). You will definately find support here.
There are some posts on here regarding Aspirin and how it helps. You will also find other members who have had simillar situations to you and me and some who have gone to have successfull pregnancies after PE.

My story and your story are quite simillar and even though ive been on this site for quite a while now its still nice to see someone who has had similar experiences as myself so i know exactly how you feel when you say you feel refreshed to see someone having similar feelings Smile

Looking forward to reading more posts from you, Take care honey,

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PostSubject: Re: I want another baby.... help me   Thu 22 Jul 2010, 5:53 am

You know I have to say that is one thing that is bugging me, I had heard after my first pregnancy that aspirin can help but even despite being consultant lead through my second not once was it ever mentioned, and I didn't give it a second thought I just assumed that the doctors know best. from about week 12 my blood pressure was on the rise so I have to say that I'm concerned that something so cheap and readily available wasn't given to me - are there medical pro's and cons to it?

I feel so robbed at the moment, I should still be pregnant - moaning about not being able to move etc yet I'm not, my daughter is in NICU and its heartbreaking to think that maybe if I was given aspirin maybe this situation would be different. I know there is no way of knowing but it certainly is a question I would like to put to my consultant who I have to say wasn't that interested if I'm honest. I would like to know if there is a way of raising this issue without making an official complaint because I know if I don't at least ask the questions it will always be on my mind.

SO so glad to have spoken to someone who is feeling the same as me, as much as I do not want to go through a pregnancy like my second ever again the joy of feeling your baby kick inside you for the first time is something I will always want to experience again and again............... I know I have to sensible and thankfully but finding this site I can make informed decision before getting pregnant again

Let me know what you decide - have you had a preconception appointment yet?


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PostSubject: Re: I want another baby.... help me   Fri 23 Jul 2010, 11:43 am

Hi SmithJackie

Aspirin may not have been considered in your second pregancy as you delivered at 35 weeks.
+At this time it would be usual to come off aspirin as your blood chemistry needs a chance to return to normal before delivery. The usual prediction is that if PE happens again it is generally 2 weeks later. This prediction would have made you 37 weeks and therefore not appropriate to be on aspirin.
Because your daughter has taken you by suprise & arrived early this seems to be that an indication that there is in fact something underlying, for example a 'sticky blood'. Either way aspirin would now be suggested in any subsequent pregnancy.

I really do understand your feeling robbed and your need to know all about what has happened and most importantly why is your baby having to struggle now if something could have been 'done' earlier. The questions you are raising are absolutley normal & justifiable ones so dont beat yourself up with that too.

I will PM you with the details of your nearest experts now.

I hope your little girl continues to grow & get stronger every day.
Warm wishes
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